Inital Stages of Conversation with Women

How to Approach Women

EARLY STAGE CONVERSATION

You have just met a girl. Now you would like to convince her to enter into a relationship with you -date you, go out with you, or whatever.

In the language of a salesman, you have a prospect. You have your foot in the door. Now you must do a job of selling to get her to accept you.

She might have some doubts, and fears for her safety. For all she knows, you are not a safe person to be with. You could be trying to entice her to go some place to assault her. You must win her trust and confidence.

You must also impress her enough that she will want to see more of you. You have gained her attention. Now you must hold it.

In the FIRST PHASE we said you should not be misled by the girl's reactions. Now, this changes. Many of your actions at this stage will depend on her response to earlier actions. Feedback now becomes very important.

How to Approach Women and What to Do

How to Approach Women

What you should do is to think your way through your body language moves the same way you think your way through your spoken approach. When you first approach the girl you should endeavor to look directly into her eyes and smile. Try to hold your gaze evenly and calmly while you talk. But you need not look directly into her eyes all the time. You can move your gaze towards other parts of her body and to surrounding objects. But always return your gaze back to her eyes. All eye movements should be careful and unhurried. In fact, all your movements should be deliberate, not jerky and nervous. Your speech should be calm and well paced. Try to act cool. Try to place your body mostly facing her squarely, with feet a little apart. You can shift weight on your feet occasionally (and change your footing) to relieve monotony. Consciously prevent yourself from keeping your hands together (except momentarily). Keep a distance just a little closer to her than feels normal, lean a little towards her.

All this may seem a little much to remember in full detail. But the main thing is to get the general idea: think confidence into your actions.

If you are able to discipline your body language in this way, your whole approach to the girl will seem right. You will know you are giving a convincing performance. Thus your confidence will be raised, and you will feel like you want to continue, even if the girl is showing signs of reluctance.

The example given was typical of a situation where the pick-up moves were commenced immediately on approaching the girl. But in situations where a more casual approach was made first, such as in waiting situations, the more positive body language should be delayed until you make your serious approach.

How to Pick Up Women Using Body Language

Body Language

Many people have a big problem with their body language, but they don't realize it since they don't even know body language exists. Their problem is that they send out false signals that contradict what they really want to say.

For example, a man is approaching a strange girl in public. She is very attractive and he would really like to get to know her. But he is very self-conscious. As he starts to speak to her, he feels insecure. He has decided what to say, so there is no problem there. But his feeling of insecurity causes him to show body language that is unsuitable. He stands a little sideways, with his hands clasped in front of him. He meets her gaze only fleetingly as he talks. He is smiling, but looks uncomfortable. He tends to talk a little quickly. He knows he is giving an unconvincing performance. He is telling her how much he would like to meet her, but he is acting like he wishes he were someplace else. In fact, if the girl gives him even a mild rejection, he will be inclined to accept it and retreat.

Of course, to give up that easily would be a mistake, since, as we have already mentioned, the girl would not be offended by his lack of confidence during his first approach, and some form of token resistance should be expected. So, if he continued with his approach he might still be successful. The real problem is with the man's confidence. If his feeling of insecurity remains, he may continue to act in an awkward fashion. Even if she agreed to walk with him, or dine with him, he might still go on acting like he felt out of place. This would definitely make a poor impression on the girl.

But there is a way out. He can discipline himself to display body language consistent with his desire to meet and impress the girl, and not with his feelings of insecurity. You see, he has mixed feelings and he is allowing the wrong feelings to dictate his body language. His feeling of insecurity is probably stronger than his desire to meet the girl, and if unchecked, it will prevail.

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How to Dress to Impress Women

How to Dress for Success with Women

Your location has much to do with your choice of clothes. Showy clothes, of course, are more acceptable at parties, singles bars and other places of entertainment. But they are not as acceptable in the street, parks, stores and general public areas. Also, in the Western and Southwestern states, men wear showy clothes more than in the East. Suitability of clothes according to surroundings is an obvious factor in a choice.

It is important that you should be well groomed when approaching a girl: shoes should be shined, you should be clean shaven (with neatly trimmed moustaches, etc.) and personally clean in every way. Be careful not to use a strong smelling aftershave or deodorant. Strong smelling perfumes are a real turn off. A fresh-scrubbed smell with a hint of soap is much better. Fingernails should be clean and trimmed. It is not easy to advise about hair. All hairstyles are fine, if they suit you. We can't say that hair should necessarily be combed and neat. Some like a tousled hair effect. Really, you can't make any rules about hair; individual tastes vary so much. Another attractive feature is to cultivate a suntan.

An extension of your clothes and grooming is your car. It helps you play your role. It can suggest wealth and quality, sporty flair, or a casual, practical personality. Your car should be as groomed as your person.

Perhaps the most important reason for being well dressed is the effect it has upon you. Certainly you are aware of how much better you feel when you are dressed up and kissin' fresh. Your confidence really soars. If you know you look sharp, your self-esteem is increased dramatically.

I have noticed that when I am well dressed, people definitely are friendlier and more receptive to me. Whether it is their favorable reaction to my appearance, or a reflection of my own confidence, I can't be sure. But the effect is very real, and a very important asset.

Nevertheless, you may sometimes find an opportunity to pick up a girl when you are in working clothes (and with some occupations you may get quite dirty). You should try anyway. Men are often quite successful in these situations. In fact sometimes the only opportunity you may get with a particular girl may be while working (or just after work). But we still feel that being well dressed and clean is an advantage; and you should strive for it if you have any choice in the matter.

Dating Mistakes Men Make

Dating Mistakes by John Alanis

I hear it over and over--"It was going so great, and then she disappeared on me... why? What happened--we were having such a great time together. I'm tired of this happening--I want to date sexy women, but I want them to stick around. Do you have any dating tips for me?"

Yes, I do. Every time I talk to a guy who tells me this, I discover he's making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. So, I give him some dating tips to skyrocket his success with sexy women. Here are the most common ones: Dating tip #1: Don't date. Yes, that's right--don't date. Think about a traditional "date"--it's full of pressure, awkwardness, evaluation and it just plain sucks. What do you do on a "traditional date?" Dinner, movie, kiss goodnight, she doesn't return your calls. Or you have drinks, and try to "make your move," and we all know where that ends up. Much better (and cheaper) to meet for coffee--it's fun and relaxed with none of the normal dating expectations. Dating tip #2: The less you do and say, the more she's attracted to you. Most guys try to impress sexy women, or "lay a rap" on them. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she'll begin to wonder why you're not slobbering all over her. She'll want to discover more... now you're a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one. This is a HUGE dating tip.

Dating tip #3 Be a "naughty little boy." Another big dating tip. Remember the "class clown" in elementary school--the guy who was "cool and funny" all at the same time? When you're talking to sexy women, make unexpected and mischievous comments, the kind that leave them thinking, "I can't believe he just said that... but I like it." This shows sexy women you're NOT impressed by their looks, that you need to see more. This is so different from what they're used to they can't help but be attracted. I cannot emphasize the importance of this dating tip.

Dating tip #4 Avoid all canned pick up lines, "laying a rap," or any type of "acting." Sexy women have heard it all before, and as soon as you spout one, you're instantly a JAG (just another guy). And JAG's don't get sexy women--remember this dating tip!

Dating tip #5 Sexy women are approached and hit on 20 to 30 times a day. This is their world--to get into it, you have to be different from the 20 guys who've already talked to her. (see Dating tip #3 for how to be different to sexy women).

Dating tip #6 Look out for her tests. Sexy women (indeed, all women) will test you to see if you'll stand up to them. If you can't stand up to her, you can't stand up for her. If she asks you to buy her things, that's a test--and a perfect opportunity to be a "naughty little boy" (see Dating tip #3). Say something like, "What do I look like an ATM machine? You should buy ME something, just for the privilege of spending time with me. I like sexy women who buy me things!" This is said in a playful--yet firm--manner that lets her know you're onto her. When you pass their tests, it drives sexy women wild with desire. Very important dating tip.

Dating tip #7 Date multiple sexy women at once, and make sure the others know about it. Sexy women love a man who is attractive to other sexy women, and will compete to "win you." (Here's another dating tip: for proof of this, read any good romance novel). If you want to settle down, you can choose one, but she will always know you're desired by other sexy women--and in a strange way, this creates even more attraction for you. This dating tip really is a secret, but it works very well with sexy women.

OK, guys, that's it for this article. Obviously there are lots of other dating tips, tricks and secrets to put to use, but if you pay attention to these dating tips, you'll be a heckuva lot more successful with sexy women. Now, go re-read all the dating tips!

On with the fun... - John Alanis, Dating Tips Master

"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

Want more dating tips? To discover how to be successful with sexy women, and for more great dating tips, see www.womenapproachyou.com.

John Alanis is the author of "Secrets of Natural Attraction: How to Get Desirable, Beautiful Sexy women to Chase You." He also publishes a daily ?politically incorrect attraction and dating tips? newsletter that reveals how to get desirable, beautiful sexy women to approach men for a date first, no matter your looks, age or income. You can subscribe to John?s daily ?sexy women approach you secrets? by going to www.womenapproachyou.com. Upon subscription, John immediately sends you five free ?how to get beautiful, sexy women to approach you!? reports, chock full of hidden secrets dating tips.

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How to Meet Friendly Girls

How to Meet and Approach Friendly Girls

Much of what we say concerns situations where the girl is reluctant to meet a stranger, for various reasons. It is a good idea to be prepared for them. But in actual fact most girls are friendlier than that, if the man is at least reasonably interesting in appearance.

It will be obvious to you when a girl is responding to your approach in a friendly manner. This makes everything much easier for you. You don't have to spar around to get an introduction -you simply ask her name.

From that point on, the relationship should progress easily (if the girl is available). You should have little trouble setting up a future date, or sharing some immediate activity.

It is a good idea to smile and try to establish eye contact with any girl you see in public that interests you. If you encounter a friendly girl in this manner she might return your smile and you can say' 'Hi." You may not have to say much more than that to meet her. A lot can be communicated between two people (who like the look of each other) with friendly smiles and body language.

Your attempts at eye contact should be bold and positive, not cautious and tentative.

But, once again, don't depend on her returning your smile to decide whether you will approach her. Many girls may be very friendly after you approach them, but may not respond immediately to a smile from a stranger.