How Not to be Boring to Women

Don't be Boring to Women

It is very tempting in conversation for a man to take the easy path of talking at length about commonplace things instead of moving on to more vital personal matters, Shyness can contribute to such behavior. It would then appear to a girl that such a man was afraid to get personal. The overall impression would be of a dull, bland person, and chances are she would become bored and lose interest.

For example, take a man at a party: He sees a particularly attractive girl. He must get to know her better. He approaches.

• "Hi! I don't think we've met. I'm Jack Smith."
• "Well, hello. My name is Mary Jones."
• "You sure look great tonight, Mary."

"Thanks!" she says, and smiles back at him. She appears quite friendly toward him. He sits down on the sofa beside her, and asks:

"Are you a friend of Charlie's?" Charlie is the host.

"Yes, I knew him in college."

So he tells her how well he knew Charlie, and they swap stories about "Old Charlie." Then they talk about college life in general. Later they discuss Middle East politics, and then a theory he had heard for determining the age of rocks. After they have been talking about thirty minutes, she says:

"Excuse me, Jack, but I have to go out back for a moment."

She goes off in the direction of the bathroom. Later he sees her talking to other people in the next room. She doesn't come back to the sofa. Jack knows he has struck out.

This unhappy little drama is a too-frequent occurrence.

What did he do wrong? He just plain bored her to death. Up to the time he sat down with her everything was fine. She really seemed to welcome his attention. But he didn't do anything about it. He just talked on and on about those "safe" subjects. They were easy to talk about because they were impersonal. But she didn't come to the party to hear about those dry things.

What should he have done? He should have been bolder, and gotten personal with her. It was O.K. for a little small talk about "Old Charlie." Maybe five minutes worth. But then he should have made some personal moves toward her. She was probably expecting that he would. He could have given her a personal compliment about her figure or her legs, being sure to look directly at such parts while doing so. He might have drawn her out on some of her experiences in college - particularly personal things -and told some spicy stories out of his college days (but not his own exploits). He could have done any of the "personal" things we have mentioned in this book. Then she might have remained interested, at least, and hopefully impressed.

Why didn't he? Probably because he was afraid she might be offended if he became too personal. He didn't want to take the chance of being embarrassed if she took offense. But you have to take that chance. You have to stick your neck out a little, or you will get nowhere.

How to Use Dirty Words When Talking to Women

Double Meanings of Sexy Talk with Women

Using Dirty Words When Talking to Women

Using dirty words with a girl means you are taking liberties with her, in much the same way as with other sexual overtures. A big difference though is that many girls who are quite interested in sex do not like being exposed to a lot of four letter words. They find it vulgar and irritating. After hearing this language frequently, as in many movies, the novelty wears off. Many men feel the same way.

If you feel uncomfortable with this language, by all means don't use it; or restrict your usage to a few of the milder words. I'm sure that there are very few girls who would be less impressed if you used no four-letter words.

However if you like to use a little salty language with girls, you can slip in an odd reference to someone being "bare-assed broke" or it being "cold as a witch's tit" (or any other mildly vulgar expression) and see how she takes it. If she gives you a cold response you'd probably be better off not going on to stronger words. But if she likes it she will probably bounce a few choice ones back to you. If she does, she is encouraging you to use stronger language with her; since she is accepting the liberties you have taken with her, she is encouraging you sexually, also.

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Sexual Pick Up Lines to Use on Women

Double Meanings of Sexy Talk with Women

Double Meanings

The mildest form of sexual overture is to speak with double meaning. The following phrases are some of the many that can be spliced into the conversation innocently, but delivered with a slight suggestion of deeper meaning:

• Can I tempt you?
• Will you take me on?
• Give me a try.
• You know what they say; you've got to try it to see if you like it.
• Come here! I want you.
• Do you want me?
• I'd like to see what you've got.
• I'd like to see what you can do.
• I'd like to see more of you.
• Are you hot?
• All the way.
• Do it together.
• Will you, or won't you.
• Does she, or doesn't she.
• If I called to pick you up later, would you be willing?
• I've been trying to think of something we could do together, where we could have lots of fun.
• You're getting me all excited now.
• Do you want to play?
• Let's fool around a bit.

How to Talk Sexy to Girls

Advice on Talking Sexy Girls

If you don't like swearing and vulgarity, don't worry; you can be as sexy as you like without using a single four letter word. For example, after you have talked to the girl a while (maybe 15-20 minutes) and are on a good friendly personal basis, you might smile and say, "You know, Rita,

I've been wondering what you'd be like in bed." Now this is a bit of a shocker. She will probably be embarrassed, more or less depending on her nature. You can always back off somewhat by saying, " Well, I thought I should let you know I thought of you in that way." The important thing is that you don't make too big an issue out of it. Most girls will laugh it off and you should be ready to go on with some lighter subject right away. But you have made your point. It was not a serious proposal, since it is still an early stage in your courtship of her. But she would certainly expect more from you on the subject of sex. You would appear exciting to her. A few girls might be really offended, but you can probably patch things up by apologizing for being so forward. Generally it is quite an effective technique.

There are many variations of this approach, for example: "Rita! You sure do look like a passionate person. I bet you are dynamite in bed," or "You know, from now on, in all my sexual fantasies, I'll make you the star of the show. "

These approaches may be a little strong for you to handle. They may be too much of a "hard sell." Maybe you can give them a try, just for the experience. If not, don't worry; there are plenty of other ways.

A mild version is: "Gee! Rita, you look so great, I wonder how you look when you wake up in the morning. Maybe I could be there to find out." You can probably think of many other amusing, but suggestive lines.

There are thousands of jokes and stories that can be used for sexy conversation. They range in dirtiness from harmless and mildly suggestive to explicit. If you are not sure whether a girl likes dirty stories, try one of the weaker ones, such as:

A girl is entertaining a sailor in her apartment. She is pouring him a drink. "Say when," she says. "As soon as you finish pouring that damn drink," he replies. You can usually tell from a girl's response to a mild joke whether she likes sexy talk. If she doesn't, don't push it. If she really likes it, you may try some more advanced ones.

How to Change the Scene When Meeting Women

Changing the Scene When Meeting Women

Change the Scene

When the whole conversation is bogging down, or if you can't even get it started, it is a good idea to change the scene. If you are on the street, in a store, or in another public place, you can simply say, "Say! I have an idea…" and suggest coffee or other refreshments, a drive in your sports car, or some fun diversion you have ready.

You can even invite her to accompany you on some serious errand you have to perform. She could help you with grocery shopping or anything else. It is always an impressive tactic to ask someone to help you, instead of your offering everything to them.

If you are sitting on the beach, or poolside, you could suggest a swim. At a bar, suggest dancing, or going outside for a breath of fresh air. At a party, suggest going outside, off on some diversion or to the kitchen for refreshments:

In fact, as soon as you can, you should promote doing things rather than just talking, unless the conversation is very fulfilling by itself.

If the situation is becoming a little strained and you can't arrange a scene shift, you can always try to set up a later date or get her phone number, then cut out.

Remember you don't have to go all the way with your moves right there and then. You can always reset the clock for another time and place, if the going gets sticky.

If there is a girl you like, and she is with others and/or you are with others, do not worry. Make your move if it is feasible. There may be too many other people around for a while, but sooner or later you can get rid of them.

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