Opening lines present some difficulties. You are approaching someone you know nothing about and trying to get something going. Your obvious predicament is that you are trying to find, or establish, a subject of common interest to give you and the girl a reason to be talking together.

You can usually do this by one of these seven approaches:

1. Ask for help.
2. An honest (usually apologetic) approach.
3. A casual (or humorous) approach.
4. A speculative approach (asking questions to get her opinion).
5. A direct approach.
6. Use a compliment.
7. Offer help, or service.

Sometimes you may use two or more of these approaches by starting with one, and following up with another. In fact, throughout the whole operation of a pick-up, you should be ready to change your approach if the one you are using is not working.

HINT #1 - Don't be moody, boring, dull, or too serious. Women want men to lift their spirits - not drown them.

HINT #2 - Be happy and positive about yourself. It will rub off on her.

HINT #3 - If a girl comes over to your house, don't just say, "Oh hi. Come on in." Better to say, "Hi! Come in. Here, sit down. Can I get you something? Would you like a drink? Some tea? Let me show you the pictures I took at the beach last weekend." In other words, be moving. Be vibrant and enthusiastic about her, yourself, and the moment you are in.

HINT #4

- Besides being seen with women, it is important to be seen with people in general. If people see you with lots of friends, they will conclude that you are an enjoyable, positive person that must possess a charm that attracts others.

5 Steps to an Introduction to a Topless Dancer

Here's the basic way of introducing yourself to a topless dancer. Let's say that your name is Derek Evans.

1. Move to within two to three feet of the dancer, the most comfortable conversational distance.
2. Smile.

3. Focus your eyes on the bridge of her nose. This is tantamount to eye contact, but is easier to maintain.
4. Hold out your hand.
5. "Hi, you look nice. My name is Derek" Almost always, she will shake your hand and introduce herself. They'll be favorably impressed with your approach, indeed pleased that you came up to them. Your response then should be, "Nice to meet you...," using the person's name.

These groups function to lay all the ground work to help people lead a happier and fulfilled life. Examples of such groups are Silva Mind Control, Actualizations, EST, Transactional Analysis, Dale Carnegie courses, etc. A majority of these groups follow the pioneering work of Abraham Maslow and Carl Rogers in humanistic psychology, the therapy groups of the 1960's, and the eclectic Esalen Institute total experience.

These groups provide an excellent vehicle for one to meet other singles. A large number of people attending these training sessions are unmarried.

Human potential group workshops provide a relaxed atmosphere to meet others. You don't feel pressured to meet others like you would if you were in a singles bar. You're both there for a common cause and this brings people together. The people there are eager to meet others and the women are friendly. These groups create conditions under which friendships and relationships can flourish.

So, why not look into joining one of these groups? It can bring beneficial change into your life and give you new insights, not to mention meeting lots of new women and establishing new friendships.

If you are at leisure yourself, on a beach, in a restaurant, or on a park bench and an attractive girl walks by, you can take the opportunity to ask her to join you. You may want to put in some' 'filler'" talk if you don't get an immediate "Yes," (and she is wavering). Coaxing and kidding are good even if you get a weak "No."

"Aw come on, I need the company," etc., etc.

Dogs are wonderful conversation openers. Either the girl has a dog, which gives you the opportunity to admire it and ask its age, sex or breed. Then compare it with a dog you had. Introductions follow. Or, if you have a dog, chances are a girl will admire it. Even if she doesn't, you can reassure her jokingly, as you pass (or she passes you), that she need not be afraid, you will hold him tightly. Or he is very quiet (just like his owner). You can even solicit admiration of your animal. "Isn't he a beauty,” etc. Of course the advantage is that you have a common experience to share with the girl - the dog.

Outstandingly interesting cars, motorcycles, horses, or any other similar possessions can be used in the same way. Remember, girls are always interested (if they are available) in meeting new guys, and anything that gives them the opportunity is fine with them.

SENSUALITY TIP - It is very important that you are perceived by people as being sensuous and sexy - not as being a robot. You can do this through your voice, your body language, touching and eye contact. Get advice from your friends, observe others, or read up on the subject. It takes practice so don't be discouraged if you don't immediately feel comfortable projecting your sensuality.

CHARM

Charm is a pleasing presentation of your personality. People who are around someone with charm feel an excitement and an enjoyment of being with them. Women are most definitely drawn to a man with "charm."

HINT #1 - When you are with a girls make sure that your body language is open and comfortable to her. Make sure that your eye contact is on her and not darting around the room. Make sure your facial expression is one of enjoyment in being where you are and doing what you are doing.

HINT #2 - Keep the conversation directed at her. Avoid talking about yourself. Keep asking her questions about her job, her education, her love life, where she lives, anything to keep the conversation directed at her interests. She will feel comfortable with a topic that she knows something about and will be flattered by your interest in her.

HINT #3 - Notice things about her: Her new hairdo, her new clothes, her glasses, the books she is carrying - anything that will show her you are observant, sensitive, and interested in her and things that she is interested in.

Not listening to her. Nobody likes to be ignored. Failure to pay attention to her while she is talking is an insult. It is a form of rejection and nobody likes to feel rejected. Don't be pre-occupied with what's going on around you and tune her out. Don't focus on other topless dancers stripping while she's talking to you either.

If she's talking about a subject you have no interest in, don't spend your time trying to come up with ways to change the topic of conversation to something that you enjoy talking about. Hear here out!

Don't make this mistake either. Let's say she's talking about a subject you're really interested in and you get so anxious to put your two cents worth in and comments, you spend your time going over in your mind what you are going to say rather then listening attentively to her.