Shyness

Some people have a natural tendency to be shy. They tend to be uncomfortable with other people, particularly strangers.. Many outstanding television and movie personalities admit to being basically shy.. They often say that they took up the work of entertaining to overcome shyness. Continued exposure to audiences helps to desensitize them. But shy people always remain so; they simply accept the challenges and overcome their fears on a day-to-day basis. Many pilots say they have a fear of heights. They can accept the fear, but it still remains.

If you are a shy person don't worry about it. You should simply admit to yourself that you are shy, and then go out and do what you want to do regardless. In fact, doing something in spite of a fear brings a very rewarding feeling. Afterwards, you get an exhilarating sense of accomplishment.

You've chosen a girl who is interested in you. You've met her or already know her. You come now to that phase of a relationship affectionately referred to as "dating." Just as in any other phase of the relationship, you are being judged. But since you are now going to be spending hours together, the pressure is really on. We have a lot of good tips to make your dates a success:

TIP #1 - There are good ways and bad ways to ask a girl out. The bad way to ask a girl out is, "Would you like to go out with me? By saying this:

1. You set yourself up for rejection. She might say no.

2. You imply that she would be doing you a favor by going out with you.

3. You imply a formal date. You are making a move on her. The pressure is on her.

4. If she says "No."  you   are never sure whether to ask  her again  for another time. Was it, "No, I don't want to go out with you," or "No, I want to go out with you but I'm busy that night."

5. You literally sound like a junior high school kid asking a girl out on his first date.

The right way to ask a girl out is, "Let's get together and do something sometime." Memorize these words. By saying this, you give an impression of a casual meeting. No big deal. Friends getting to know each other. Not a formal date. If you say this, her response will let you know whether she wants to date you or not.

When you go to topless clubs look for these signs that a topless dancer may be interested in you:

1.  Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

2.  She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken from her taking drugs).

3.  Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.

4.  While talking to you she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and index finger.

5.  Her nipples get hard while giving you a table dance.

6.  She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

7.  Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

8.  She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

9.  She rubs her chin or touches her cheek.  This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.

10.  She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and towards you.

11.  She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

12.  She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

13.  She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

14.  Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

15.  She rubs her wrists up and down.

16.  She puts  her fingernail between her teeth.

17.  She laughs in unison with you.

18.  She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

19.  Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

20.  She mirrors your body language and body positions.

21. Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

22.  While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

23.  In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

24. While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

25.  She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

 I know this is a lot of signs to look for, but this will be to your advantage to know if she's interested in you.  If she's not truly interested in you, you will just be wasting your time on her. Memorize these positive signs to determine if she's got the "hots" for you and take advantage of the situation accordingly with your charm and seduction techniques.

The Card Method

                                                                               

How  many times  have you  been attracted to women, let's say in public places,  a  sales clerk,  a beautiful girl  alone in a restaurant, a hot & sexy lady getting  off an  airplane alone, a gorgeous babe standing in the checkout line?

Well I have  come up with  a get acquainted  card for  those occasions where you don't have much time or the place  is not appropriate  for getting acquainted. This  card breaks the ice and works like a charm. I've used  it  and  my male  friends  have used it very successfully to meet women.

Here's what  it says  and you  just take  this to your  printer and have  it printed on  a business card and  on  the  back  have your  name  and phone number printed. It reads:

I've  been  carrying  this  card  for a long time hoping to  meet someone like you.  Bars & pickup lines are  just not  my style,  so I  hope to meet you using this card. I'd really like to find out who you are and tell you exactly what it was  about you that attracted me. My  name &  phone number  are on  the back of this card. The  option of calling  will be yours,  but I'll really be sorry  if you don't  call. Let's spend  some time together. Please call and let me know who you are.

Self Esteem

You should be convinced that you really are an interesting person. There is an old sales axiom: You must believe in what you are selling. You must believe you can be attractive to a girl. Then you can go about convincing her. Don't think of yourself as a nobody. If you think that way, it will show, and the girl will think you are a nobody also.

Inexperienced men attempting to pick upgirls are their own harshest critics. They tend to downgrade their own efforts. They usually think they are doing much worse than they actually are. If you can realize that you are probably making a much better impression than you had thought, your confidence will be greatly improved. So think positively about your efforts; you will be closer to the truth, and a lot more confident.

The Book Method

What I'm about to describe to you is the best way in the world to attract women to you in bars and nightclubs. It's guaranteed to work and never fails! Women will literally flock all over you. You're probably saying to yourself, "That's a bunch of bull."

Let me explain the method. What you're going to be doing is reading in bars and nightclubs. Sounds crazy doesn't it? Now just place yourself in a woman's shoes and you see this man reading a book in a bar. Your curiosity is going to be killing you and you've just got to find out what he's reading and why in a bar. Get the picture now?

This is a highly successful method of attracting attention from women. Some women will even leave their dates to talk to you. You'll have a big edge on the other men because you're doing something unusual and different.

What should I be reading you ask? Well I'd recommend self-improvement, motivational and get rich books.

When you're asked why you're reading, you can go into detail about you wanting to improve yourself and you wanting to become financially independent. You tell them you're reading these books to motivate you and improve your life.

OK, now what to do when a woman approaches you:

Most likely she's going to say, "What are you reading?" or "Why are you reading in a bar?" Then you close your book and you say, "Why don't you sit down and let's talk about it." Explain why and then follow up on your conversational skills. After you've made contact and talked to her for awhile, invite her to dinner the following day.

If for some reason you get interrupted before you can ask her out, I would suggest saying, "Susan, this is very interesting, please call me tomorrow and we will discuss this further." Then give her a business card or personal card with your phone number on it. As a suggestion, you can use a folded business card and on the inside it reads, "I like you very much and I want to see you again! Please call me!

In the beginning you may find it difficult concentrating on reading with all the noise and commotion. With practice you can learn to block out the background noise. You will be interrupted frequently by people's curiosity but that's the main objective.

So why not give it a try. I guarantee you that It works like crazy!

Leading Up to the Proposal

Sometimes the girl may be a little slow to make up her mind about agreeing to your proposal. You may want to let her think about it for a while. One way is to suggest the private rendezvous at a time a few days hence, but don't require an answer until the next day. Allow at least 24 hours for her to consider the idea. A girl's romantic imagination will usually make the idea more attractive as she thinks more about it. You can arrange to phone her for her answer.

This is a good time to tell the girl you love her. But be careful not to say that unless it is true as it could cause future complications. A good alternative is to say, "I'm feeling very close to you right now," or "I just want to be near you," or anyone of a thousand other statements of affection.

Another smooth way to propose a sexual adventure is by oblique reference. You might say:

“You know! A lot of single couples are booking in as roommates for vacation weekends now. A buddy of mine and his girlfriend did it last weekend. It worked out great."

If she says, "Sounds cozy," or makes some approving remark, you have laid the groundwork for a similar proposal to her. You can surely think of plenty of variations on this theme. The idea, of course, is to describe another couple doing the things you want to do with her. Approval of their actions by her indicate that she is probably accepting the idea for the two of you.