It is of the greatest importance to realize that when you approach a girl, your every word need not be believable. Some men get so uptight about this. They say, "She will surely know I am faking when I approach and ask for help, or show interest in her work (or whatever)." They feel guilty, as if they are trying to deceive the girl, and they know she will see through it.

But don't worry. Of course the girl knows what you are up to. And she knows that you know she knows. (Sort that one out!) It is all a game. A ritual. You are saying certain things, but your message has nothing to do with your words. That is the way the game is played. The real message is to simply let her know you are attracted to her by approaching her in some way. All girls understand this.

As much as you can, you should try to act in a light-hearted manner during the courtship process. If you are a serious natured person you may find it hard to change, but you should at least make an effort to smile more often. This adjustment will usually improve your image.

The power of seduction is perhaps one of woman's strongest instincts. This drive probably goes back to ancient times when a woman seduced a man to gain protection and food in order to survive. Over the centuries this drive has evolved to become more subtle, but certainly not weaker. We see today even pre-school girls "seducing" their fathers to get what they want. Girls learn at an early age that men can be manipulated with nothing more than a little female attention.

Of course, the attention that women use translates to sexuality. But it doesn't even take a promise of sex - merely the hint or suggestion of sex is enough to manipulate or seduce a man into doing what a woman wants him to do. As a matter of fact, some women grow up finding so much success using their "charms" that seduction becomes second nature to them. Most often, they are not even aware that they are doing it. Usually these women grew up around men who were very susceptible to female attention, so that from an early age these women learned how to get what they wanted. So, if money is important to a man because with it he can get what he wants, in the same way, the power of seduction is important to a woman because with it she too can get things she wants.

What all this means to you, the man trying to understand women, is that women like to know they have that power of seduction. Women are very stimulated by an opportunity to affirm that power. They love a chase. They love a man who is a "catch" - Someone who is hard to get. A man who makes himself easy denies a woman her desire to prove her powers of seduction. She will be bored with this man and go after one who stimulates her desire for a challenge. This is something that every man must remember when dealing with women. Later we will give some ideas and examples of how to appeal to this female drive.

When you go to topless clubs, I recommend sitting at these 3 places to meet topless dancer.

1. COUCH OR BIG-ARMED CHAIR - These are great for table dances. They really give you some nice views and highly erotic moves by the dancers. Once again, by sitting in these places, the dancers may assume you want a dance and, the name of the game is attracting the dancers, then put them under your spell.

2. DRESSING ROOM - Sit near the dancers dressing room. Why? This is a high traffic area for the dancers going back and forth to the dressing room and restroom. You will get high visibility in this area. You will get noticed and you will get attention. That's the bottom line to sitting in favorable places. To get noticed and attract attention.

3. LAST DANCE STAGE - If you are at a topless club with a buddy, sit at the last dance stage. The girls rotate stages and she is doing her last dance and will be taking a break. You and your buddy are the last faces she will see after she leaves the stage. If you've made a lasting impression, she may come right back to talk to you. Or, this spot may just turn out to be a good spot for no reason in particular. You just have to play it by ear and experiment.

1. This will really frustrate you. You ask this woman to slow dance and she accepts. Your bodies meet and she starts grinding her crotch into yours. You're getting turned on and horny. All this time you're thinking she's horny too and wants to make love to you. The song ends and she abruptly breaks away and says, "Thank you" and then disappears into the crowd. Then you say in your mind, "That damned teaser!"
2. This is known as a big flirt. She walks around flirting with every man in sight. When a man approaches her trying to make contact, she rejects his advances or makes up an excuse to leave the scene.
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3. This experience can really blow your mind. You meet a woman and you drink and dance the night away. You think you're really hitting it off good together and you get the impression she will go home with you. You ask her if she would like to come over to your place for awhile. She says, "No" and you ask her if she would like to leave and get a bite to eat at a local restaurant. She still says, "No." So you say, "Well can I give you a call sometime?" She replies, "I don't give out my phone number to strangers." So it ends up that you wasted your whole night on his one.

Girls sometimes approach men to pick them up. But don't get lazy and depend on this. The really attractive girls aren't the ones most likely to do this, so you still have to get out and make your own opportunities.
Men can be attractive to girls. This is an obvious fact. Whether it is a combination of looks, mannerisms, personality (or whatever else), the end result is that special magic called sex appeal.
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You must become a believer in yourself. You must believe that you too can have sex appeal. And of course you can. You simply have to improve and cultivate the assets you already possess. This book should help you to do this.
But your magic needs some practical help. You may stand and look at a girl, knowing she would be impressed by your personality and charm. However if you don't make an approach to her, your magic cannot begin to work. So, in addition to possessing sex appeal, you must be prepared to talk about mundane things, like the weather, bus timetables, and other small talk, just to get into a position for your sex appeal to work.

Women are attracted to a man that other women find attractive. To understand this trait, one has only to look at what it says about a man when he is with a woman.

1. He must have things going for him or she wouldn't be with him.
2. He must know how to treat a woman.
3. He is going to be hard to get - a catch. After all, there is more than one girl vying for his time.
4. If a man is with another woman, or has a steady girlfriend, it makes him safe. He is not out on the prowl. Women love to flirt, to express their sensuality, and to test their alluring abilities. But women want to be able to do this without being "hit on" or "come on" to. So who better to flirt with, and to feel comfortable with, than a man who is safe.
5. Though most women will deny it, women are very competitive. They love to prove the superiority of their seductive abilities by being the one to catch the man that all the girls want. Women love to show off their date when they know all of their friends are envious. The lure of competing for the popular guy is strong indeed.

Being seen with a girl is probably the single most important thing a man can do to help his image. It says that you have things going for you, that you know how to treat a woman, and that you are a catch - and it states all of this without you uttering a single word. But how does this help you if you don't already have a girlfriend or a date?

This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book, "A Man's Guide to Women."

NEAR A BACHELOR PARTY - There's just too many distractions here. It's too loud and all the men are acting so immature and like a bunch of animals. Plus the dancers are like vultures when they know a bachelor party is going on. They know the guys will be buying table dancers for the bachelor and this is how they make their money, so sit as far away as you can from a bachelor party. The only reason to sit next to this party is for voyeur purposes.

This atmosphere is just not conclusive for one-on-one encounters with the topless dancers. You want her focused on you without a lot of distractions or her looking out of the corner of her eye on how she can capitalize on the bachelor party next to you.