The basic idea of courtship is for the man to build up his prestige with the girl until she accepts him as a lover. This is usually accomplished by a gradual increase in familiarity and trust.

There is no particular time frame for this courtship process. It may take weeks, or if the two have a natural affinity for each other, it may take but a few minutes. Generally, a man is more attractive if he is bold and quick to state his intentions, rather than cautious and slow. The old saying: "Faint heart never won fair lady," has a lot of merit.

For example: A man meets an attractive girl at a party. After they talk for a while he feels that she is quite attracted to him. He then says, "You know, I'd like to make love to you. Maybe we could go away for the weekend." If she really liked him she might accept him then, or think about it for a while before accepting. Or, she may say, "No, you are much too fast; I hardly know you." He can say, "OK, I'm prepared to go slow if I have to, but now you know how I feel. I thought it best to tell you the truth." He can then proceed with a slower courtship and repeat his offer later.

His bold early suggestion, even though not accepted, has not damaged his chances. Rather, it has enhanced them. If the girl liked him before, she should still do so. In addition he should now appear more exciting to her.

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What about the women's movement? What about women competing with men for jobs? What about pressures on men to be sensitive and understanding? And what about the fact that for the last few decades’ women not only can, but are, surviving on their own? In the seventies the Women’s Lib movement started confusing men as to exactly what role women wanted them to take. Were they to continue to be strong, powerful male providing leadership and protection to the weaker sex, or were they to become "equal partners" relinquishing one half of the decisions and leadership to the female?

And if the latter is true, can we then look to a female for guidance and strength? This seems to be the big question facing us today. And finding the answer has been difficult because women are just as confused about what they want from us as we are. Women hear the women's movement rhetoric advocating a new independence and equality, while subconscious drives dictate attraction to men who will take the lead.

In answering this question, we have to ask: Can instincts and drives developed by 400,000 years of natural history be wiped out by a ten year old movement? Absolutely not!

So, why do men go to topless clubs? To look at naked women and act like a dog in heat, they are lonely and need some company and someone to talk to, they are sexually frustrated at home so this is an outlet, for bachelor parties, to entertain business clients, to solicit prostitution, to get drunk, to eat food while surrounded by naked women, etc.

The least reason men go to topless clubs is to pick up topless dancers. That's where our book, "How to Pick Up Topless Dancers" featured in the Playboy Catalog will help you. If you can't score with a topless dancer after using this book you are brain dead. The whole game plan is laid out for you. All you have to do is take action. There's never been a better time to pick up topless dancers. There are more hot & sexy young girls than ever in the topless clubs and it's time you have your share of these fun-loving, warm and willing women. Change your ways now! Don't just go to topless clubs to look at naked women and then go home and beat off. Turn these "Dream girls," into real girls. Make friends with them first and then pursue them sexally.

Find a nightclub where the greatest number of women are and that you feel comfortable in and keep going there as often as possible. Make an effort to meet as many people as possible, including other men. After all, guys know women and they can introduce you to their female friends, relatives, and co-workers. By going to this place often, you will become a familiar face and you will be amazed at the number of friends and acquaintances you will make. So get out there and make the rounds and find yourself a good nightclub. Just keep going to this nightclub and see if your social life doesn't improve dramatically.
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Also, I might add, don't just go to a few nightclubs when selecting a nightclub. Go to all of them so you can make a good comparison as to which ones are the best. Some nightclubs are good only on a particular night. Find out what night that is and make an effort to be there every week.

You must get your act together. Don't leave things to chance; merely hoping that you will be attractive to single girls you meet. You should plan ways to be attractive. Your moves should not be haphazard. Many men have only vague plans of how to impress a girl, plans that are not properly thought out and rarely successful.

You should be successful by design, by using psychological principles that really are successful. Don't go out poorly equipped with incomplete, unreliable plans that often cause you to fail and loose confidence in yourself. You should use solid reliable methods.

This way you will believe in your ability to be successful, and so be confident in what you are doing. You should realize that you could have a large degree of influence (and even control) over the way other people think. if you go about it the right way. You should train yourself in the skill of influencing other people in the same way you would train yourself for a job skill. After all, it is a skill that is very important in your life and well worth the trouble to improve it. There is no doubt that if you spend time thinking about and studying this skill, you will improve it, as you would any other skill. Study and practice bring improvement in any craft.

One need only look at 400,000 years of natural history to understand a woman's attraction to power and leadership. Since the dawn of man's time on earth, women have looked to men to provide food and protection. In this quest for survival, women were not drawn to weakness. Which man she picked could mean the difference between survival and extinction, so the drive to seek out the more powerful male has, quite naturally, survived to this day. Though times have changed and the way a man expresses his role in society is different now than it was 400,000 years ago - or even 100 years ago, this instinct is still strong in women.

Does this mean that all women are out looking for a linebacker? No. It is true that women are attracted to men who are physically strong, but today men can express power in other ways. Being decisive, being knowledgeable, having the ability to influence other, being accomplished in a sport or in one's profession, being financially successful - generally, being in charge of one's self and any situation that one is in. These are all things that women interpret as signs of power and leadership, and all things that women are attracted to.

Get to know your waitresses in topless clubs! It can pay big dividends. Why? Because she usually knows the dancers on a personal basis. If there is a dancer you are attracted to, want to get to know on a personal basis, she might be able to tell you some valuable personal information about the dancer. A lot of these waitresses are really pretty, have a good personality, fun-loving, and wear sexy outfits. Flirt with them and try to pick them up. Establish a friendship with them and ask them out. These girls need love too, you know. Some of them don't get to date much because of their weird working hours.
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Some of these waitresses become topless dancers, too. They see all these dancers making all that good money and say to themselves, "Hell, I can do this and make a lot more money than I'm making as a waitress." Also, the club management tries to recruit waitresses to become dancers.