Some topless clubs feature, "Amateur Nights."  This is a dance contest for amateur dancers.  These girls haven't danced before and compete for prize money which is usually around $100.00.  This is a good way for the girls to try out stripping to see if they like it or not.

Topless clubs use these contests to recruit new dancers.  Some girls try it and like it, especially when they see how much money they can make.

            

You'll find that these contests are usually held once a week at your second tier clubs.  Your upscale clubs rarely have these contests to recruit new dancers.  They already have an abundance of dancers to hire.

           

So, what do "Amateur Nights," have to do with picking up topless dancers?  Because you can strike gold with these rookie dancers.  They are much easier to take advantage of and I will tell you why.  It takes a lot of courage to take your clothes off in front of men the first time you get up on stage.  So, to build up their courage these girls get high on drugs and/or alcohol.  This is to your advantage because they will be more receptive to your charm and seductive techniques.

           

They will be easy to meet and they want someone to cheer for them and help them win the contest.  What's great, too, is these girls haven't been exposed to the topless club scene, haven't gotten burned out, or developed a bad attitude toward men, which can happen to dancers after being hit on constantly, propositioned for sex, and treated like a whore by the customers.

             

Amateur topless dancers will be the easiest type of dancer to score with.  Find out which clubs in your town or surrounding areas that feature "Amateur Night."  Make it a point to go as often as possible because you'll find these girls to be "Easy Pickings."  Also, on good nights you can have up to ten fresh rookies for you to seduce.  These girls can be real pretty with knockout bodies too!

                                                                        

Don't be disappointed if you don't get lucky the first night.  You're main objective is to at least get her phone number and meet for a casual non-threatening meeting for lunch or dinner.  After that you can pursue a sexual relationship.

Negative Signs That She's Not Interested In You

1.  You lean towards her and she leans back away from you.

2.  She starts turning away from you.

3.  She doesn't make eye contact with you.

4.  She folds her arms across her chest.

5.  Double crosses her legs at the ankle.

6.  She touches her nose often while she's with you.

7.  A limp or hanging hand can indicate boredom with you.

8. When talking to you, her eyes keep glancing at other guys in the topless club.  She's probably keeping her eye out for her next customer.

9. She makes no effort to talk to you.  She doesn't reply to any of your comments, doesn't answer your questions, and doesn't ask any questions about yourself.  Unless she just doesn't feel good or is moody this could indicate that she's not interested in you and you will be wasting your time.

Negative Signs That a Topless Dancer

is Not Interested In You

1. You lean towards her and she leans back away from you.

2. She starts turning away from you.

3. She doesn't make eye contact with you.

4. She folds her arms across her chest.

5. Double crosses her legs at the ankle.

6. She touches her nose often while she's with you.

7. A limp or hanging hand can indicate boredom with you.

8. When talking to you, her eyes keep glancing at other guys in the club. She's probably keeping her eye out for her next customer.

9. She makes no effort to talk to you. She doesn't reply to any of your comments, doesn't answer your questions, and doesn't ask any questions about yourself. Unless she just doesn't feel good or is moody this could indicate that she's not interested in you and you will be wasting your time.

In closing, always keep your objective in mind and that is to divert her attention from trying to make money off of you. Her objective is to try and make some money and turn you into a customer. Your objective is to turn on your charm and get her interested in you as a friend, then as a lover.

When you go to topless clubs look for these signs that a topless dancer may be interested in you:

1.  Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

2.  She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken from her taking drugs).

3.  Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.

4.  While talking to you she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and index finger.

5.  Her nipples get hard while giving you a table dance.

6.  She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

7.  Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

8.  She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

9.  She rubs her chin or touches her cheek.  This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.

10.  She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and towards you.

11.  She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

12.  She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

13.  She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

14.  Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

15.  She rubs her wrists up and down.

16.  She puts  her fingernail between her teeth.

17.  She laughs in unison with you.

18.  She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

19.  Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

20.  She mirrors your body language and body positions.

21. Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

22.  While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

23.  In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

24. While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

25.  She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

 I know this is a lot of signs to look for, but this will be to your advantage to know if she's interested in you.  If she's not truly interested in you, you will just be wasting your time on her. Memorize these positive signs to determine if she's got the "hots" for you and take advantage of the situation accordingly with your charm and seduction techniques.

Let's discuss stage dancing.  This is where topless dancers dance for mostly $1.00 tips put in her "G-string."  They start out on the main stage and dance to a couple of songs.  The first song consists of a teaser act where she comes out on stage clothed in a sexy, sleazy outfit, dancing and prancing and flaunting herself to excite the horny men in the audience. 

Then, for the second song she comes out topless and wearing a G-string to dance.  Some of these girls are very talented dancers with a very well-choreographed routine.  Others just do the standard bump and grind routine.

The purpose of all this is to attract tips from the guys in the audience.  In case you have never given a tip to a dancer on stage, here's how you do it:  Just go up to the edge of the stage with a dollar bill folded longways.  She will see you and approach you.  Then she will dance in front of you and when she squats down, put the dollar bill in her G-string after she motions you to do so. Then she will thank you and kiss you lightly on your lips or cheek.

 

           
As a variable to make an impression on her try this:  Put a lottery ticket with your dollar.  Write on the back of it, "If you win call me at _______ and let's celebrate.  Even if you don't win lets meet for lunch or dinner.  Good luck!"  Then sign your name.
              
Who knows, she may be so impressed by your unique approach that she may actually call you.  Be sure when you give her the dollar bill, you tell her there's a lottery ticket with it!  This is very important so she will remember you.   

                                                

A word about paying for a dance.  Always pay cash if possible.  Why?  Because if you use your credit card, they usually charge you a processing fee of $5.  This is a rip off to me.  Also, you might want to offer her a barter deal for a dance. Offer to wash & wax her car, change her oil & filter, lottery tickets, jewelry, gift certificates, any services related to your business, etc.
           
Accept  this as something you have to put up with in topless clubs.  You will constantly be hustled for table dances!  Don't hold this against the topless dancers.  This is how the dancers really make good money.  So, if she's not doing dances she's not making any money.  They have bills to pay just like you and me and she will spend most of her night hustling men for dances. 
              
Always  remember  that you're under no obligation to buy a dance from her.  If she's really crazy about you, she will even dance for you free.  If this happens, you've got a real good shot at scoring with her.

Back to the dancers soliciting you for dances.  As you are sitting at your table you will be approached by dancers with their standard line of, "Would you like some company?"  If you say, "yes" right after she sits down, she will hit you up for a dance.  You can stall her with small talk after she joins you, but eventually and real soon she's going to ask you for a dance.

            
So, what do you do?  Always say, "I'd rather buy you a drink and get to know you better.  I know the ropes of your business, so if you need to go make some money, I understand.  Just come back and party with me after you make your money."  If she never comes back, you'll know she's not interested in you, because you won't buy a dance.

 

If you are a celebrity, movie star, rock star, wealthy, don't try to hide it. Exploit it to the max, but be cool and don't brag.
            
Your celebrity status will attract topless dancers like a magnet. If you have a yacht, mansion, Lexus, airplane, etc., let her know about it. It will make a big impression on her because these girls are obsessed with money and material things. They are true "Material Girls."

             
Just overlook the fact that she may just like you for your material wealth or celebrity status. Just have some fun with her. Wine and dine her and fulfill your sexual fantasies. Just imagine the thrill of a huge boner when she does a "private and seductive dance" for you totally nude in your bedroom. You will swear that you have died and gone to heaven!

 Don't make fun of, criticize, or judge a topless dancer because you don't think a dancer is attractive or something about her looks turn you off. Dancers have a sixth sense about them and will pick up on the negative vibes you're sending her way. Just focus on her good points such as beautiful hair, sexy eyes, beautiful smile, or kissable lips. Find her other good qualities and concentrate on them. Don't think any negative thoughts towards her, period. She just may pick up on them and this will make a bad impression.

 

Poor hygiene will really turn a topless dancer off or any woman for that matter. Keep your hair and teeth clean and your breath fresh. Be sure and bathe, wear a good cologne, and wear a good deodorant. Don't forget to shave either. Be aware that facial hair will make you look older. Also, most dancers are not attracted to beards. If you insist on wearing a beard, keep it neatly trimmed.

If you are going bald or have a receding hairline, don't try to disguise it by combing it a certain way. This makes you look silly. Dancers are not going to judge you because of your lack of hair. If you're getting thin on top, just cut your hair short all over. This will give you the appearance of having more hair.

Another word about hair. If you have a chest or back like a hairy gorilla, trim it. The majority of women are turned off by too much hair. A word about gray or graying hair. This will attract dancers like a magnet, provided that you have a slender body to match it. If you're overweight, she will see you as just a fat old man, which will be a turn off and don't die your hair either because this is not good for your image either.

If you are an older man, wear your hair short. It will make you look younger. Study the models in the magazines for some nice hairstyle ideas. Finally, it won't hurt to have a nice tan either. Dancers love the beach, so it will certainly help for you to have that tanned beach-hunk look.

What do you wear to a topless club? You dress to impress, that's what. When a topless dancer first sees you she is impressed by how you look and what you're wearing. First impressions are very important and you want to make a good first impression. You can do this by wearing something that she is attracted to and you want to stand out from the other guys that are dressed like slobs or old men. So where do you find some up-to-date fashionable clothes to impress topless dancers? Your best source is from a catalog called International Male. Call them at 1-800-293-9333 for a free catalog. I ordered all my clothes for going to topless clubs from them. I always get tons of compliments on my clothes from the dancers. These fashions really impress the dancers and help to attract them like crazy. Believe me, there's a lot of truth to the old saying, "Clothes make the man." You can also get fashion ideas from GQ Magazine which is on your local magazine rack. Also, Esquire Magazine, and Playboy. Pay attention to how the male models are dressed that are 35 to 60 years old and try to dress like them.

Why do you need to be a sharp dresser? Because most of the topless dancers are young and they are infatuated with clothes. Her world revolves around clothes and she's always talking about them, shopping for them, and reading about them and she has an appreciation for a man who wears them well and looks his best.

Choose the colors that you look best in and if you don't know, ask women, they will know what becomes you. Don't go to a topless club over-dressed. You will appear to the dancers that you're stuffy. You want them to feel relaxed and casual around you.

You don’t want to make a fool out of yourself and turn the younger dancers off. They will secretly ridicule you behind your back. Dress for your age group. Here are some dressing taboos for topless clubs:

1. Avoid looking like her Daddy. Don't wear bright colors or anything polyester.
2. Avoid cowboy boots, ball caps, hush puppies, golf shoes, suspenders, sweaters with buttons on the front, pattern or plaid pants or jackets, bell-bottomed pants, loud ties, glasses, tie clasps or tacks, wear nothing that's a throw-back to the 60's and 70's, shirt pocket pen holders, Hawaiian shirts, or shirts unbuttoned down your chest.
3. A word about jewelry. Don't wear gold chains around your neck, gaudy watches and rings, gold bracelets, or calculator watches.

Treat Her With Dignity

I know topless bars have a bad reputation and the girls get a bad rap. Some people think topless dancers are nothing but a bunch of whores and prostitutes. If this is what you think of these women, you had better change your attitude in a hurry. The dancers will pick up on your attitude by the way you treat them.

The vast majority of topless dancers you will run into are not prostitutes or whores. They are only dancers making a living by taking off their clothes. Don't hold it against her because she's trying to make a living by taking her clothes off in front of a bunch of lust-hungry horny men. They have bills to pay just like you. What I'm trying to say is treat these women with respect and dignity. Always be a perfect gentleman. Believe me, she will notice these little things and it will make a good impression on her. Even though they are a topless dancer, they still like to be treated as a lady and not as a piece of meat or as a sex object. They still have a lot of pride.

Always treat them as you would like to be treated. Don't ever be rude to her even if she gives you cause to be rude to her. If she makes any smart or rude comments towards you, just ignore it. You're not there to make enemies, you're there to make friends and turn that friendship into a love affair or sexual encounter.

If you treat a dancer like shit, she will never forget it. Plus, she may tell the other dancers what an asshole you are. Also, she may tell the bouncer and have your ass thrown out of the club. Always be on your best behavior and charm. It always pays off in the long run.

Here are some tips on talking to topless dancers when you go to topless clubs

Animate Your Listening

She can't read your mind, but she can read your face to get a clue of your reactions. Look at yourself in a mirror and imagine things that make you sad, happy, astonished, shocked. Exaggerate your expressions - try so hard that every facial muscle feels strained!

Experiment with every feeling you think may come up in a conversation - respect, admiration, sympathy. As you become more used to expressing your emotions this way, you will feel less as though you are overdoing it, and you will better convey your feelings.

Learn To Change The Topic

Learning how to gracefully change the topic is one of the best ways of keeping a conversation going. It also provides an opportunity for you and her to find areas of mutual interest.

A Flowing Conversation

A good conversation flows in and out of several topics. People jump from point to point. A remark may spur a recollection about a completely different matter. Then the talk may naturally flow back to the original topic. You shouldn't feel that you have to completely exhaust all the possibilities of one topic before proceeding to the next.

Make it a point to pick out a strip joint and go there regularly at the same time and the same day of the week. You will usually see the same topless dancers. You'll become a familiar face and become friends with all the dancers. There's a lot of competition sometimes among the dancers for the boyfriends of the other dancers. They will actually try to steal each others boyfriends away from each other. Wouldn't you like to have a bunch of pretty exotic dancers fighting over you? Talk about heaven!

A word about spending money. Don't throw it around trying to impress the women, especially if you can't afford it. They are use to this and it doesn't impress them that much. When they keep pressuring you for drinks and you want to stop buying them drinks, just explain to her that you know the ropes of his business and you'd rather spend your money on her away from the club. She will understand.

In conclusion, don't sit around and drool and stare at these women anymore. Make an effort to meet and attract these women. Don't beat around the bush with them. Just come right out and tell her that you want to see her when she's off work.

I sincerely hope you're not one of those men who go to strip joints just to watch the exotic dancers. Most men do and they don't know what they are missing out on. These women can be picked up and are generally easy to meet. A lot of guys don't even try to pick them up and it's a shame because these girls need lovin just like any other girl.

How do you approach these women? Well, normally they will be approaching you, possibly to hustle you for drinks or a table dance. Don't hold this against them and think they're just trying to take you for a ride. They're just trying to make a living and they get a commission on these drinks.

You might as well face the facts that you just might have to buy them a drink or table dance to talk to them. These can be house rules.

Buy them a drink or two, it won't kill you. Just be nice to them and treat them with respect and you can get somewhere with them.

Keep Your Ears Open

An iceberg statement is a piece of free information in which 90 percent is under the surface, waiting to be asked about. These statements are hints of what she would really like to talk about. An example is "Oh, thank you. I got these earrings when I was working at a topless club in Dallas." The speaker wants you to ask a follow-up question: "When were you in Dallas?"

People are usually hesitant to compliment themselves. She may complain to you that none of her clothes fit anymore because they're too big. If you are a sensitive listener, you may realize she is really telling you she has lost weight and would like some praise. Be alert for such clues.

Be Sensitive To Her Responses

If she gives you a brief response, she may not wish to discuss the topic for a particular reason. Be sensitive to unenthusiastic responses, and be ready to change to a new topic quickly when you feel you have touched on a high-sensitivity or low-interest area for her.

Avoiding Sensitive Topics

What do you do if she brings up a subject that you feel is inappropriate? These are subjects that are in poor taste or which may make you feel uncomfortable - a racial slur, for example. You can show that you don't share this opinion, but without making a fuss about it. You might simply say, "I don't really agree with that," or "I'm sure we can find more pleasant things to talk about." Now, since you made the suggestion to change the subject, it's up to you to do just that. Pick up the conversational ball quickly and open a new topic of discussion by making a comment or asking an open-ended question based on free information that heard earlier.

Tips on Talking to Topless Dancers

Listen to what she is saying, decide why it is being said, and then restate it in your own words. For example, if she tells you, "men are always hitting up on me, propositioning me, or asking me to go home with them, you might say, "it sounds like you're getting tired of being treated like a sex object."

It's best to restate occasionally, after she has expressed a particular point. You can restate by saying, "So what you mean is...." or "Now if I understand you correctly...." Summarizing in this way makes you listen carefully, lets her know if the message was communicated correctly, and eliminates any misunderstandings.

People often stray from the main topic. As a listener, it is helpful for you to keep this central idea in mind, and from time to time put the conversation back on tract. Summarizing will allow you to do this. You can say, "It sounds to me like you are saying....Am I right?"

What to Say Next to Topless Dancers You Meet

Don't worry about what you should say to her next. While you're thinking about this, you aren't listening! You'll know what to say by listening carefully for key words, main ideas, facts, opinions, and feelings. Listen most of all for free information on which to base questions. If you are told, "I was in Las Vegas just last week to party and do some gambling, you can offer information about yourself: "Oh, I was brought up in Las Vegas!" or "I enjoy gambling too." You can also ask:

"Do you enjoy going to Las Vegas."
"Were you brought up in the Las Vegas area?"
"Where do you like to go in Vegas?"
"What kind of gambling do you enjoy in Vegas

Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men

If you're shy and have trouble talking to topless dancers, it helps to be prepared with things to talk about. Besides the things that are most important to you, here are sources for conversational fuel:

1. Come up with 3 or 4 interesting or exciting things that have happened to you recently. Practice telling these stories on family or friends, or practice in front of a mirror or with a tape recorder.

2. Read current newspapers and magazines, and be prepared to talk about events that interest you.
3. Collect a couple of sure-fire, inoffensive jokes.
4. Become knowledgeable about what's going on in your city. People always want to know more about what's happening locally.
5. See current movies and read current books. You're bound to find dancers who have seen the same movies or read the same books.

Before you'll be meeting new topless dancers, take an inventory of the things that are important to you, and that you'd like to talk about. What are you excited about now? What changes are taking place in your life? What have been the most important events or people in your life? What future plans are you most enthusiastic about? Why do you feel the way you do about things? What are your concerns? What is your vision for the future? What are your likes and preferences?

The answers to these questions tell her how you relate to the world around you. Be specific, so that your conversational partner gets a lot of free information to pick up on. Communicate your enthusiasm. Disclose some of your feelings and values.